Neighbor blocks his supposed friend of 10 years for absurd reasons like keeping him posted about his house when he was on vacation: ‘He bottled up over the years without talking to me about.’

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María Cetra • Writer
Jul 10, 2026 11:15 AM EDT

Why would someone find any of these signs of a bad neighbor? And why shouldn't they say anything in 10 years?

Holding a grudge can be acceptable in some cases, but not when it is about your supposed-to-be friend and neighbor of 10 years. I don't really get what the real problem is with some people expressing their emotions, especially if they are mad at someone. If you have a friend and they did something kind of bad, I get why someone would be doubtful about bringing it out, in can cause the friendship to end, problems in a bigger friend group, or start unnecessary drama about something insignificant. But if you're really, really mad at your friend to the point that you want the friendship to fully end, why not say something? There is actually no reason to keep that to yourself, as the worst-case scenario has already happened. The friendship is over. Why would you not say something? And especially, why would you wait 10 years?

Another thing that I don't get about this Reddit story is the blocking. I never understood why some people find it easier to block someone from communication with you rather than simply saying, "I don't want to be your friend anymore". With the blocking, you are just creating an uncomfortable atmosphere that is functioning as a way to slow down an inevitable thing. The fact that you don't communicate that the friendship is over does not mean that you won't have to do it ever. With the blocking, you are advising the other person that something is wrong or weird, but they are going to eventually confront you about that, not just pretend that a friendship didn't exist at all.

Sometimes we should just rip the band-aid off. Tell the truth, be free, be honest. There is no reason to pretend that something that is over is still there. Just be courageous enough to admit your feelings and stop with the weirdness and doubt. Be forward. 
 

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    I was good friends with my neighbour for 10 years. A few months ago, he blocked me from all messages services. I talked to him yesterday about it, and he said I was a bad neighbour. I'll try to give the reason why he says I was a bad neighbour without being biased to myself. These are all things he bottled up over the years without
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    Two doors next to each other, visual representation. 

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    my lawn and didn't want to blow clippings all over his guest car or worst sh ot rocks at it. Turns out it was out of line to ask his family members to move their car while they were still in their PJ (I donno how I was supposed to know they were in their PJ) 3. we talked for many years about redoing our shared
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    - - fence. The plan was always the same. we hire someone to set the post we build the rest on the following weekend. This would keep the project as economical and easy as possible, considering we both know how to build fences.
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    Year and a half ago, out of the blue, he dropped off a quote from a local fence company that was 2x more than what we would build it for. He told me he was going on vacation to Mexico for 2 weeks and needed the fence done right away for his dog. So because this was not what we had discussed for years, I declined.
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    4) says I'm too nosey. He goes on vacation a lot and spends all summer at his trailer, so I try to keep him informed about what's going on. Example: he was away, and we had a bad storm, and one of his trees got blown hard, a branch landed on his new truck, and the tree was now leaning towards his house. Told me I was being too nosey when I tell him that stuff.
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    Ashl3y95 NTA He sounds a bit nutty
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    PeaPuzzleheaded8123 NTA. If someone bottles up eight years of minor annoyances, they're setting the friendship up to fail.
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    DJ_NY_Supreme NTA. You're not the bad neighbor, he is. The first reason is ridiculous. Why should you buy him a brand new space heater just because the one he was holding onto for decades in his garage didn't work. It would be a different story if you broke it but it
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    simply didn't work from the start. The second reason: Sooo I'm guessing your neighbor was ok with his guests having grass all over their cars or even worse, losing a window? The third reason: so because you refused to pay for a fencing company that charges 2x more the pay to do the work than what was originally planned? If he wanted to do that
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    SakiLace NTA, but I can't help but feel like your neighbor's been holding a grudge longer than the time it takes to watch all of his family in their PJs!
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    radiant kiwi208 NTA but your neighbor was never a close friend if he couldn't communicate any of this to you at the time that it was in issue.
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    Rockpoolcreater Are you younger than your neighbour? I have a feeling he thought you were a pushover that he'd be able to buy and control. He's now ped off that he can't get one over on you. There's probably some big cost coming up that he would have tried to make you pay for. But he knows he can't. So he threw a hissy fit and blocked you so
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    he can't message you to ask for it. Or the fact you still treat him with kindness really. can't stand it. him off and he By the way he knew that heater didn't work. He leant it to you knowing it wouldn't work hoping you'd think you broke it and would buy him a new one so he didn't have to buy one himself. He's a cheapskate a hole.
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    Past-Feed-4580 Obviously from your retelling, NTA. Only question is if your retelling is factual and unbiased
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    artful_todger_502 Having a neighbor watch your house is a priceless perk. Some people are just wack. We have a house for sale on our street of you might want to move here
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    Kittiewise NTA. Honestly, with all of the examples that you gave your neighbor sounds like they've been unreasonable for many years. You just may not have seen or realized it since the incidents were so spread out. I have an aunt like this (who I deal with as little as possible), so I know that these kinds of people can never be pleased.
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    Take them blocking your as a serious blessing and start planning to move. A petty person like that may work to quietly undermine you in ways that you can only imagine. Maybe even try to turn other neighbors against you.
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